A Story Of Love Lost and Love Found
The one who got away was strong, sensitive, compassionate, positive
kind, loving, very intelligent, loyal, determined, funny, good looking, and
It happened slowly, over a period of time. Bit by bit the connection and
love that was so strong, faded. Every day, just a little bit of that amazing
person was slipping away.
The kindness and gentleness she once knew was gone. It was as if a
door had opened and the winds of change were upon. Moving through
the day like a robot , suddenly became the norm. She was not willing to
accept what was happening. There were plenty of signs of betrayal and
lies, and it was heartbreaking.
Then one day, she realized what had happened. She was the one who
got away. In an instant she knew, that she had betrayed herself and lied
to herself all in the name of love.
She was alone again. After years of personal growth, she seemed to be
in the same place she had been in the beginning. Alone, sad,
heartbroken and betrayed. But….
There was after all so much personal development and growth over
many years, that little by little, she found the one who had gotten away.
She stood up, and realized, that SHE was the one she had been looking
for, yearning for and loving all of these years.
Despite the loss of another, she was determined to take her life back and
make it better than ever before. One of the greatest aha moments was
when she realized that the relationship that was taking her away from
herself, had been a short blip in her long life. She had survived and
thrived through so much more than that.
During the beginning days after the actual breakup she cried. Let’s be
honest, she cried for several months before the end. Because she had
lost herself, even before the relationship ended. She asked herself “Why
hold onto something that doesn’t make you feel good?” Why would she
want to believe that she couldn’t do it without another? Perhaps,
because something kept whispering in her ear, it doesn’t matter what
others believe, what do you believe? The answer was that she believed
she could, just as she always had! The beauty of love lost and love
found, is that once you find yourself again, you will be stronger, bolder,
and more committed to continued growth than ever before. The lesson
may be harsh, and if you allow the lesson to be your blessing, then the
universe will show you what you are made of and what you can
This story is about remembering, who you are when you have forgotten.
You are not your circumstance, your story, your history, your body, your
dis-ease, or your income. You are so much more than that.
She believed it and knew that when she believed in herself, miracles
She set out to find her place in the sun, and to be love to everyone
around her and most of all she set out to nurture, and care for the one
that got away. She began doing the things she loved again, and saw an
instant joy begin to rise. She reached out to people who she thought
were lost to her, and found that they had been waiting for her to return
because their loving hearts had kept an open space for her. Many
friends, supported her in her days of mourning a relationship that took
her away from herself.
The secret is in doing the work. Within a few short weeks, she began to
see opportunities and possibilities open up right in front of her. She
spent time getting to know and love herself all over again, and vowed
that she would never stay where she was not wanted again.
She came back into her power by:
Setting healthy boundaries
Noticing what is good in life
Watching her self talk
Allowing for the process of grief
Practicing extreme self care
Reaching out to those she thought she had lost
Allowing herself love and be loved in return
She lost those extra pounds by taking care of herself
She believed. For the first time in a long time, she believed in herself.
She opened up and shared her deepest feelings, with the people who
When you have been in a relationship that makes you feel small and
insignificant, then you have to do what you have to do.
Stand up, get dressed, show up, and remember. You are a spectacular
human being. You just forgot for a moment. #SelfCare #SelfEsteem
Relationship and Self Esteem Coach
Women’s Empowerment Expert