Why Are You Still Single?

While most of us want to be in a relationship, there are others, who prefer to remain single. If you’ve been single for a long time, there’s a reason. You have chosen to be single.

It’s time to take the look at the reasons you might be single, honestly. Only then can you make the necessary changes, so that you can attract the relationship of your dreams.

Why Are You Still Single?

While most of us want to be in a relationship, there are others, who prefer to remain single. If you’ve been single for a long time, there’s a reason. You have chosen to be single.

It’s time to take the look at the reasons you might be single, honestly. Only then can you make the necessary changes, so that you can attract the relationship of your dreams.

It’s time to take the look at the reasons you might be single, honestly. Only then can you make the necessary changes, so that you can attract the relationship of your dreams.

Determine why you’re still single:

  1. You’re attracted to those who are inappropriate for you. Do you dream of a happy marriage with children in a beautiful home, with lots of friends and family? Yet you find yourself attracted to toxic, emotionally unavailable partners?
  • Maybe you’re attracted to someone who is totally committed to their careers, who are broken and feel like they need saving.
  • Perhaps you’re single because you’re only interested in those who aren’t high value indidivuals. You should ask yourself why.
  1. Could it be that you are too picky? Consider the criteria and mindset you use while hoping to attract a good partner. Perhaps you’re focused on the people who look good on paper, but when it comes to real love, they have no clue.
  2. Your self-esteem is low. We tend to date on our level, or at least what we think is our level. If you don’t think very much of yourself, you’ll date people that aren’t necessarily high-quality relationship material. Raise your self-esteem and the quality of your dates will improve, too. Having said that, if you are an empath, you want to be there for people and help them. And when that happens, you forget about your own needs and put others needs before your own.
  3. You’re comfortable with your routine. The older you get, the more routine your life can become, no matter how great the other person seems. You might like staying in on Saturday nights, watching romance movies, thrillers, reruns, and eating frozen pizza. Heaven forbid you wind up with a partner who wants to go out for pizza and watch a movie on the big screen.
  • You might enjoy your current routine. At the very least, it’s safe. But you might enjoy a new routine with someone special even more.
  1. You’re afraid of intimacy. It can be scary getting close to someone new. They might even decide to leave at some point. you may have been alone for a long time, and aren’t sure how to navigate a new intimate relationship. What you need to know is that the right one, will be patient, will not make sex a priority when they are getting to know you and will take everything nice and slow.
  2. It’s not a priority for you. You know that when the time is right, once you have worked on your relationship issues, and are more ready to accept someone into your life, the universe will supply. When your priorities change, and you feel you are ready to try again, a relationship will be possible.
  3. Your activities are contrary to finding a partner. Sitting on the couch won’t you help you meet a potential partner. You have to interact with others that have the same objective. Find your tribe and watch what happens.
  • Some women believe that a man should pursue them while they passively bask in the attention. But he can’t shower you with attention if he doesn’t know you are interesteed. If you want to share your life with someone, taking the lead once in a while, is a good thing.
  1. You’re difficult to be around. Some people are easier to be with than others. If you’re moody, bossy, demanding, or manipulative, in general, you’ll have fewer options. Men and women can both be guilty of this. And please remember this. The one who is meant for you will love all of you while you work through your own stuff so that you can become the best version of yourself.

If you’ve been single for an extended period of time, but you desire a relationship, maybe your approach needs a little tweak. The perfectly imperfect person for you is out there.

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You are attracted unavailable or toxic individuals

  1. You’re attracted to those who are not good for you. Do you dream of a happy marriage with children in a beautiful home, with lots of friends and family? Yet you find yourself attracted to toxic, emotionally unavailable partners?
  • Maybe you’re attracted to someone who is totally committed to their careers, who are broken and feel like they need saving.
  • Perhaps you’re single because you’re only interested in those who aren’t high value indidivuals. You might want to ask yourself why.

An honest look…

  1. Could it be that you are too picky? Consider the criteria and mindset you use while hoping to attract a good partner. Perhaps you’re focused on the people who look good on paper, but when it comes to real love, they have no clue.
  2. Your self-esteem is low. We tend to date on our level, or at least what we think is our level. If you don’t think very much of yourself, you’ll date people that aren’t necessarily high-quality relationship material. Raise your self-esteem and the quality of your dates will improve, too. Having said that, if you are an empath, you want to be there for people and help them. And when that happens, you forget about your own needs and put others needs before your own.
  3. You’re comfortable with your routine. The older you get, the more routine your life can become, no matter how great the other person seems. You might like staying in on Saturday nights, watching romance movies, thrillers, reruns, and eating frozen pizza. Heaven forbid you wind up with a partner who wants to go out for pizza and watch a movie on the big screen. You might enjoy your current routine. At the very least, it’s safe. But you might enjoy a new routine with someone special even more.
  4. You’re afraid of intimacy. It can be scary getting close to someone new. They might even decide to leave at some point. you may have been alone for a long time, and aren’t sure how to navigate a new intimate relationship. What you need to know is that the right one, will be patient, will not make sex a priority when they are getting to know you and will take everything nice and slow.
  5. It’s not a priority for you. You know that when the time is right, once you have worked on your relationship issues, and are more ready to accept someone into your life, the universe will supply. When your priorities change, and you feel you are ready to try again, a relationship will be possible.
  6. Your activities are contrary to finding a partner. Sitting on the couch won’t you help you meet a potential partner. You have to interact with others that have the same objective. Find your tribe and watch what happens.
  7. You’re difficult to be around. Some people are easier to be with than others. If you’re moody, bossy, demanding, or manipulative, in general, you’ll have fewer options. Men and women can both be guilty of this. And please remember this. The one who is meant for you will love all of you while you work through your own stuff so that you can become the best version of yourself.
  8. Some women believe that a man should pursue them while they passively bask in the attention. But he can’t shower you with attention if he doesn’t know you are interesteed. If you want to share your life with someone, taking the lead once in a while, is a good thing.

If you’ve been single for an extended period of time, but you desire a relationship, maybe your approach needs a little tweak. The perfectly imperfect person for you is out there.


There is a lot more to all of this. If you are ready to commit you your personal growth, and learn more about self love, please book your Discovery Session here. I would love to help.

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